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We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
- National Competition on Worries! - National Competition on Worries!
Let me introduce you to today's guests.
The living hip-hip legend,
the godfather of hip-hop, Tiger JK!
(Tiger JK, the godfather of hip-hop)
- Kwon Hyeok Soo! - Kwon Hyeok Soo!
Hello. It's nice to meet you all.
The most talented beauty creator,
Risabae!
(Risabae, beauty creator)
Do Yeon and Elly of Weki Meki!
(Do Yeon and Elly of Weki Meki)
(It's nice to meet you.)
I'm such a huge fan of Tiger JK's.
- I'm a big fan of yours too. - Thank you.
As a matter of fact, Hello will...
mark its 10th anniversary.
Congratulations.
Thank you.
However, you haven't come on the show until today.
This is his first time on this show.
I've been busy working on music.
I feel very awkward right now.
Also, I heard that your TV broke...
a long time ago,
but you haven't had it fixed yet.
It's been a while. I can't watch any TV shows.
Have you not watched Hello before? Not even once?
I'm sorry. I've never watched it.
- We've been doing this... - It's been eight years.
I heard that this show is about sharing worries.
Since I had no worries,
I didn't think I needed to be on the show.
Really? You've been married for many years, right?
Yes. I've been married for 10 years.
I see. I know you guys are happy together, but when you two fight,
I'm curious to know if you do so in a hip-hop style.
Do you?
We do argue like hip-hop artists sometimes.
- You do? How? - Yes.
We fight through our songs...
- in our song albums. - They release diss songs.
Are you sure that the song was aimed at you?
You can tell if you read the lyrics of her song.
- What's the song title? - "You're a Jerk".
The song title tells us it's about you.
I can tell the song is about you.
I see. What does she say in the song?
It goes, "You're a jerk."
"You promised to make a lot of money,"
"but all you do is drink."
- You're a jerk - That's how the song goes.
So I made a counter diss song,
which is on my new album.
- You made a counter diss song? - How does your song go?
It's about admitting what I did wrong.
You're right, I'm a jerk
- I changed it to "I'm a baby". - I see.
That sounds nice.
Nevertheless, everyone knows they're happy together.
Of course.
Hyeok Soo is a welcomed guest.
He once appeared on this show...
- to share his worry. - That's right.
(He gets dozens of missed calls.)
(His father claims that every parent feels the same way.)
- Your father... - Does he still announce you...
- when you go to restaurants? - That's right.
Does he open doors while saying, "Kwon Hyeok Soo is entering."
- Does he still do that? - Yes, he does.
When I enter, "Here comes Kwon Hyeok Soo, everyone."
- Then I say hello to everyone. - Right.
Even the people who are working in the kitchen.
- The kitchen too. - Yes.
Kwon Hyeok Soo is also very good at impersonating others.
- He's very good. - I happened to...
prepare an impersonation of Yeong Ja today.
Can you do better than Young Chul?
I can't even copy Young Chul's...
version of me either.
But you're going to do that?
(That memory is pretty intense.)
I'll copy you describing the flavors.
When you're happily sitting in front of food...
- Nice. - I'll impersonate that.
Team Manager. All these dishes are on the table.
I feel great.
(Shocking)
Don't you feel like a noble by just eating this food?
- Something like that. - I can see it.
Regardless of the voice, the way he describes it is alike.
I can't even do that.
Your hands go like this.
I do that without realizing when I'm happy.
- Risabae is also here. - Yes.
You became the talk of the town as you transformed...
- into celebrities with a makeup. - Makeup cover.
- Right. - She looks alike.
It's similar.
People would think that's Sun Mi.
(Perfect expression)
(Hwasa of Mamamoo)
- That's makeup? - That's Hwasa...
- That's you? - Yes, it is.
- No, that's Hwasa. - Awesome.
Is that you?
- Yes. - What?
(Oh, my.)
That's IU.
- Is that you? - That's me.
That looks like IU just woke up from her sleep.
- That's awesome. - She looks the same.
(Are you alone?)
She looks the same.
(She looks exactly like Jiang Chen.)
- It's awesome. - It's amazing.
- How can she do that? - Awesome.
(What did I just see?)
People wondered...
if I looked like Yoon Kye Sang in the first place.
- I know. - It's that close.
Since you did Jiang Chen,
how about trying for Tiger JK?
I'd love to.
I heard you were a big fan since you were young.
Yes, he's my idol.
You met your idol.
I know all his songs.
From famous "I Want You",
"8:45 Heaven", "Good Life", "Convenience Store",
- "Drunken Rapping", - "Drunken Rapping".
"Do You Know Hip-hop?"
Thank you.
Now...
(Hip-hop expression of gratitude)
- It's an honor. - Thank you.
There are many fans here. Can you sing for them?
- Rap. - Rap.
(I love it.)
(Everyone say hey.)
(Together)
(Perfect harmony)
(I want you, I want to tell you this)
(The look in my eyes is proof of how much I want you)
She's a real fan.
- Thank you. - Risabae.
- She's better than me. - You weren't lying.
I know all his songs for real.
- Weki Meki released a new album. - They released a new album.
- Can you sing here? - Let's hear it.
(Everyone welcomes it.)
("Crush" by Weki Meki)
(Weki Meki is back, and they're lovelier than ever.)
(They aim for fans' heart with charisma.)
(They love it.)
We'll listen to three worries with them.
Show us the keywords please.
"A Stinky Man". Goodness.
- "Flaring up". - "A Hopeless Worry".
The title is "A Stinky Man". I will read the story.
Hello. I'm Jeong Da Eun,
11 years old living in Namhae, Gyeongsang Province.
I feel like dying because of my dad.
He's very sweet.
"My daughter. Let me give you a hug. Come here."
"Come here."
"No. I don't want it. Go away."
"Then give me a kiss. Come here."
It says closer.
"Come closer."
(Is she fulfilling her desires through the skit?)
"Go away. No."
"Dad. You smell like garbage."
- "What are you talking about?" - "You smell."
His breath smells like garbage every day.
Why?
Because my dad...
is the heaviest smoker ever.
He's the heaviest smoker ever.
He smokes every 20 minutes.
Every 20 minutes?
(Shocking)
What I hate the most is...
when I go to the bathroom.
As soon as I go in...
(I feel like throwing up.)
"Dad. Did you smoke in the bathroom again?"
The entire bathroom is filled with smoke and the smell of cigarettes.
But what I'm worried about the most...
happened in school quit smoking campaign.
"Everyone. Do you see these lungs?"
"If you smoke a lot,"
"your lungs turn black."
"You could get a lung cancer..."
"and die in the end."
I'm worried...
that he might die from smoking nonstop.
I'm worried every day.
Please stop my dad from smoking.
This is her story.
What do you think after listening to her story?
I was irritated as soon as I heard the title.
I'm actually quite sensitive about the smell.
I know. You smell nice.
I'm kind of obsessed about it...
in case I don't smell good.
I have different sprays for my house, my car,
my hats, and my clothes.
- Really? - Yes.
Tiger JK, you used to smoke too.
I used to smoke a lot.
I think I used to smoke every 20 minutes when I wrote lyrics.
- When writing lyrics? - Yes.
Did you quit smoking after giving birth to Jordan?
No, I...
My father passed away from lung cancer.
(His father passed away due to lung cancer.)
- He passed away four years ago. - Goodness.
But I still couldn't quit smoking.
I blamed myself.
- His son was smoking. - I was smoking.
I also had a surgery due to stress.
I received a blood transfusion. I almost died.
But it's funny how I quit smoking so that I could live.
I stopped smoking after the shocking event.
- That's good that you quit. - Yes.
Think about it in an 11-year-old's shoes.
Did your dad smoke when you were young?
My dad stopped smoking when I was in elementary school.
He stopped smoking because...
I said I won't kiss him anymore unless he stops smoking.
That's why he stopped smoking.
- Right. - That's what dads should do.
My dad chose to stop kissing.
(My dad chose to stop kissing.)
That's possible. He quit kissing you.
He chose to quit me.
Maybe it's because you're cute.
Your dad decided to quit you.
Okay. Da Eun must be worried to send us her story.
Let's meet Da Eun. Please come out.
(Whose daughter is worried about her dad's smoking habit?)
(She's cute.)
(Jeong Da Eun)
(Welcome)
- Have a cup of water. - You can put it down.
- Here. - Thank you.
Yes, it's Seoul water.
(Chuckling)
There are all kinds of water.
- Thank you. - Yes.
Introduce yourself.
Hello. My name is Jeong Da Eun, and I'm 11 years old.
I'm from Namhae, Gyeongsang Province.
- Hello. - Welcome.
How much does he smoke?
He smokes from a pack to a pack and a half in a day.
- Okay. - Did you count it?
I figured it out from the number of cigarettes...
he buys in a day.
From the amount he buys.
Since when did he start smoking so much?
He started smoking since I was born.
Your dad was smoking when you were born?
- No. - She's so young.
From your earliest memory?
I think I came to realize it when I was six.
Why six?
I saw a lot of cigarette butts...
in the can where he throws them out.
If he keeps smoking, it's harmful.
I was worried about him passing away...
from smoking.
You were worried since you were six?
Does that memory make you sad?
You suddenly look sad.
Were you shocked?
- Yes. - When you were six?
What made you think of something so extreme?
His teeth turned yellow.
He removed a lump twice...
in his large intestine through endoscope.
But since he doesn't stop smoking,
I'm worried that it might get worse.
She's unbelievably smart for an 11-year-old.
You must love your dad so much.
She's cute.
Do you love your dad this little or this much?
I can't put it in words.
- How cute. - Her dad must be very happy.
He needs to quit smoking now.
- Please quit. - Your dad must feel proud.
How does it bother you?
Sometimes it's suffocating.
It feels like when you talk in front of class at school,
you're so nervous that you cry.
That's what it feels like.
She has a remarkable ability to express herself.
Then, do you feel nervous when you talk in front of class?
- Yes. - Have you ever cried?
It happens often.
- Goodness. - Really?
Then he should quit smoking, and you should quit making presentations.
If you feel that nervous every time you talk in front of class.
- Right? - "Quit making presentations".
Why do you keep telling her to quit?
I told you my dad quit kissing.
Does that make sense?
(Laughing)
Just like the way you feel in such a situation,
you feel suffocated all of a sudden. Is that what you mean?
Yes. When I smell cigarettes,
I feel suffocated...
and get teary-eyed. I feel like I'm going to die.
- That must be painful. - I bet he knows secondhand smoke...
- is just as bad for her health. - Of course it's bad.
- It's really bad. - It's bad.
My dad smokes in the bathroom.
White smoke floats in the air in the bathroom.
I take a deep breath before I go into the bathroom.
I hold my breath as long as I can and then breathe in again.
And the towels smell like cigarette.
- I feel uncomfortable. - Towels absorb the odor.
So I use toilet paper to wipe my body first.
- My goodness. - And then I use a towel.
Have you ever told your dad to quit smoking?
Yes, I have,
but he didn't listen to me.
How did you tell him? Did you say, "Please quit smoking"?
Or did you say it with confidence?
I said confidently, "Dad, please quit smoking."
"Smoking can harm your health."
"You may die of lung cancer..."
"or other types of cancer." That's what I told him.
- What did your dad say? - She told him seriously.
Did he say, "Still, I'm not going to quit"?
(Laughing)
- It's possible. - That could've been his response.
My dad said he was very stressed out because of work.
He asked me to understand him.
- Was that it? - Yes.
I'm sure it was hard for him to quit smoking. He must have...
put it off from day to day until now.
- He's lowering his head. - Right.
I think he knows that the situation is serious.
Let's meet her father. Sir, hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
(Who is her father who smokes a lot?)
Sir, don't lower your head like that.
We feel bad since you look so sorry.
You should've just quit smoking.
If you feel that sorry, you should just quit smoking.
Do you understand why your daughter is worried?
Yes, I understand her.
If you do, please quit smoking.
Could you please elaborate on it?
Since I started smoking at a young age, I got addicted to it.
It became hard for me to quit smoking.
- So I've been smoking until now. - Did you start at a young age?
I started smoking when I was 18.
These days, people don't smoke inside of their houses.
They smoke outside.
It's my habit...
to smoke in the bathroom whenever I see a cigarette.
- That's why... - I have a question.
Do you smoke in the bathroom...
- because you think you can't... - Right.
relieve yourself without smoking?
I can't help but to smoke when I relieve myself.
You need to smoke whenever you relieve yourself?
- That's right. - Have you ever...
relieved yourself without smoking?
I think I have done it twice.
- Only twice in your entire life? - Only twice in your entire life?
Only twice since you started smoking at the age of 18?
(That's why it's hard to quit.)
I thought I couldn't relieve myself without smoking too.
- But I do fine without smoking. - It's possible.
It comes out when it's time.
When you need to go, it overcomes your need to smoke.
Hyeok Soo, you know...
that Dong Yeob used to smoke, but he quit smoking.
- He quit smoking. - That's right.
However, I saw him smoking one day at a work get-together.
I said, "Dong Yeob, I thought you quit smoking."
He said he smokes a cigarette only when he drinks.
However, he drinks every day.
- That's hilarious. - How is that quitting smoking?
He doesn't smoke while drinking now.
- He quit that too. - I quit that too.
- He used to smoke when he drank. - I used to do it before.
(Let's quit smoking, everyone.)
Do you have a lot of stress?
Yes, because of farming.
Oh, you're a farmer. That explains your dark skin.
- I grow rice, - Rice?
garlic, spinach, and pumpkin.
I have a field that is almost 20,000m².
Do you do all the work in that large field?
- Yes. - What?
- Oh, my gosh. - What?
(Unbelievable)
Why do you work so hard?
- He probably should work all day. - How many hours do you work a day?
I work for 12 hours a day when I'm busy.
- 12 hours a day? - 12 hours...
- in a row? - That's too much.
- It must be exhausting. - He works so long.
Do you live in an apartment?
- No, we live in a house. - If you live in a house,
you can smoke in your yard.
It's easy to step out. It's not like you live on a high floor.
- Right, sir? - Yes.
(Yes.)
- You have a rooftop too, right? - Right.
Yes.
(Please smoke outside of the house.)
Do you drink too, by any chance?
I don't drink at all.
- Not at all? - I see.
Is there anything you do for fun?
I don't have any hobbies.
- You don't have a hobby? - No, I don't.
Is smoking his hobby?
(He smokes to relieve stress.)
We asked for some pictures...
to help you realize how large his field is.
You need to know how much work he does all by himself,
so you understand him at least a little.
- As you can see, he works alone. - Isn't that fertilizer?
- Yes, it's fertilizer. - My goodness.
He does all the work in the field.
(It's endless work.)
He does all the work, right? Gosh.
(It must be really hard.)
- Gosh. That's too much work. - He plows the field...
and everything.
Sir, please keep your head up.
You look like you've done something seriously wrong.
I'm sure your body aches so much when you come home.
Yes, it hurts.
(Thinking how hard her father works...)
- Oh, no. - She's crying.
She feels bad for her dad.
(It breaks her heart and makes her cry.)
She's crying because she knows that he works really hard.
I think that's why she waited for him...
to quit smoking for the past 11 years.
She's such a good daughter.
(The 11-year-old girl has a good heart.)
When your dad or your grandma are tired,
do you help with house chores?
- Yes. - What house chores do you do?
I fold laundry and wash dishes.
I also make bibimbap with seasoned vegetables.
Vegetable bibimbap.
- I also make rolled omelet. - Rolled omelet.
And I make ramyeon for him too.
Does he like the noodles soft or hard?
- He likes both. - How much water do you use?
Do you add extra water...
- or do you... - That's not the point.
Since she cooks often,
- I was just curious. - All right.
(Thinking of her dad who worked hard all day long,)
(she made this dish with her tiny hands.)
Are Da Eun's dishes delicious?
Yes, I really enjoy her food.
She's only 11 years old,
but she makes a lot of efforts for her dad.
Have you ever made an effort to quit smoking?
Could you be specific?
I went to the public health center twice.
- They have support programs. - I've tried a nicotine patch...
and some other things, but it didn't even last one day.
- Until now? - Yes.
Sir, aren't you worried about your health?
- Da Eun told us that you had... - That's right.
- colon polypectomy several times. - I'm worried,
but it's hard to overcome the addiction.
(It's hard to overcome the addiction.)
You keep using that as an excuse.
"It's hard because I'm addicted. It's hard because it's a habit."
I know that he's trying, but...
She knows.
(She made a mistake.)
You should say, "I know".
- I know that, but... - Okay.
Since he failed to quit smoking even though he went to...
the health center twice.
So I thought he lacked perseverance.
You thought your dad lacked perseverance?
Do you think you have perseverance?
I persevere with important things...
such as my studies or homework.
And my YouTube channel too.
- Your YouTube channel? - Your YouTube channel?
- Risabae is a famous creator. - Do you have your own channel?
How many subscribers do you have?
I don't have many. I have 12 subscribers.
- She runs her own channel. - Risabae,
how many subscribers do you have?
I have 1.94 million subscribers now.
(Awesome)
How would you describe a person who has 1.94 million subscribers?
A great person.
(A great person)
(She's adorable.)
What made you the most upset among the things he did?
It was the day when I went to school for weekend sports activities.
He said he'd give me a ride.
And my friend went with me.
- My dad smoked while driving. - In the car.
- In his car? - Do you smoke in your car too?
- Yes. - Even when she's in your car?
Yes.
You shouldn't smoke in a closed car.
- Your friend was in the car too? - Yes.
- Oh, no. - My goodness.
Then my friend whispered to me.
She said I always reek of cigarettes,
and so no one wants to play with me.
She made fun of me like that.
I was very upset.
Oh, dear.
Her friend teased her because her dad smokes a lot.
(She must've been upset.)
Sir, please don't keep your head down.
Your daughter sent us her story.
Please look at her facial expressions and her eyes.
- Right. - And hear what she says.
Then you have to share your feelings with her.
You said you knew you had to quit smoking,
but you couldn't because it's addiction.
(He said it's because he's been smoking for a long time,)
(because of work,)
(because of addiction,)
(and because it's his habit.)
If you keep making excuses,
- you can never change it. - Dong Yeob is right.
(Won't your daughter live in pain forever?)
First of all, could you not hold it even when...
- Da Eun's friend was in your car? - No.
I smoked unconsciously since it's my habit.
- Unconsciously? - Yes.
- You could've put it out. - That's right.
Is it also impossible?
Yes.
(I can't do that.)
(My goodness.)
- I see. - Gosh.
I don't realize what I'm doing until it's too late.
(He doesn't know how serious this matter is.)
Does your dad smoke whenever you're in his car?
He smokes whenever he drives.
Since he smokes in the front with the window open,
- the smoke comes to the back seat. - That's right.
It's no use opening the back seat window.
It comes right to your face.
There are some days you can't even open the window.
Even on a rainy day, my dad doesn't care if he gets rained on or not.
He smokes no matter what.
If I open the window, I get rained on.
I can't open the window because I'm afraid I might get lice.
- Lice? - Lice.
- Lice. - Lice?
- Yes. - I see.
Children had lice when I was a child too.
Sir, is there any place where you don't smoke?
There must be a place where you never smoke.
Here.
- Here? - In this studio?
In this studio?
He'll have to keep coming back here to quit smoking.
(I'm already feeling dizzy.)
Do your friends tease you about smelling like cigarettes?
One day, I bought a pink scarf. It was so soft.
I told a friend to feel...
how soft it was.
She threw it, saying it smelled like cigarettes.
(Her friend threw her scarf.)
(That's so harsh.)
(I'm sorry.)
Did you think it smelled like cigarettes too?
I didn't think it smelled.
Only your friend could smell it?
(Serious)
- How did you feel? - Really?
- I was said. - Da Eun can't...
detect the smell when it's faint.
- She can't. - She's too used to it.
It's a serious problem.
Do you ever worry about...
Da Eun losing her friends because of this problem?
It breaks my heart.
But you still smoke.
As I work in the fields a lot...
and my mother is old...
(Embarrassed)
Sir. You said...
- you started smoking at 18. - Yes.
Did you work in the fields then too?
No.
You've smoked all your life.
You've pooped without smoking only twice in your life.
One of Da Eun's friends is here today.
Young.
- Hi, Young. - Hi.
Please pick up the microphone.
Does Da Eun sometimes smell like cigarettes?
From time to time.
How do you feel when you smell it?
I think it must be bad for the health.
You think it must be bad for the health.
Have you ever been in Da Eun's dad's car?
No, I haven't.
Do you want to?
(Laughing)
Don't just laugh. Say something.
Da Eun's dad needs to realize his problem.
- I don't want to. - Right?
Does Da Eun get along well with her classmates?
Our classmates don't tease her a lot.
But guys in fifth grade tease her about the smell.
Guys tease her?
(I didn't know it was that serious.)
It breaks my heart because Da Eun spends so much time...
in school.
She must be on edge all day because of this problem.
- Please think about that too. - Exactly.
(Please remember that your daughter is getting hurt.)
What do other family members think about your dad smoking habit?
My grandma told my dad that smoking is bad...
for his health, but he wouldn't listen to her.
In the end, they had a big fight.
My grandma told him to do whatever he pleased and pushed him hard.
She also threw a glass bottle to the floor.
- Your grandma? - Yes.
I went to throw away the broken pieces,
and there was a piece as small as my nail.
- You cut yourself? - It got in my foot.
I couldn't go to the hospital, so I took it out on my own.
What about the other family members?
My mom and dad split up when I was six.
I live with my little brother, my grandma,
my dad, dog, and cat.
I see.
Do you fight with your mother a lot in front of your kids?
My mother is very old.
She's had two back surgeries.
She shouldn't work,
but she's so stubborn.
Whenever she goes out to work,
we start to fight.
My mom left after having a fight with Dad.
I'm worried my dad will leave us just like my mom did.
I'm also worried that my dad or grandma will get injured.
I'm scared.
(I'm scared.)
(She worries about losing her dad all the time.)
- My goodness. - You're scared your dad will leave?
- Yes. - When your dad and grandma fight,
what do you and your brother do?
My brother doesn't seem worried at all.
He just watches TV or plays games.
I try to stop their fight.
She's worried her dad will leave like her mom did.
Isn't it so sad?
She seemed to worry about the possibility...
of her dad getting lung cancer...
way too much for her age.
It's because her mom already left.
The fear must feel so real for her.
Did you know your daughter was feeling this way?
She's affected a lot by your fights with your mother.
Yes.
(All he does is say yes.)
I'm sorry to ask, but could you tell us...
what happened between you and your wife?
I married a foreigner.
When Da Eun was about five,
she left after a fight.
Did you know Da Eun was worried...
- you'd leave too? - No.
It makes my heart ache.
(It makes my heart ache.)
- Does it ache a lot? - Yes.
Why did you never tell your dad?
I was afraid my dad would get angry if I talk about my mom.
She was afraid he'd get angry.
- You're not going to get angry? - No.
- Are you going to listen to her? - Yes.
Then say everything you want to say.
When were you worried about your dad the most?
He was riding a motorcycle.
It slipped, and he was hospitalized for 40 days.
His face was so injured that I couldn't even recognize him.
But after coming home, he continued to smoke.
I was so worried I'd lose him for good.
After I was done working, I was on my motorcycle, and it slipped.
I injured the left side of my head badly.
- My goodness. - So...
For a week...
I was in a coma.
- You were unconscious? - Yes.
The injury must have been really bad.
Thank goodness you woke up. It's a relief.
I wanted to buy my kids good food.
I wanted to get well...
and work again. That was all I could think about.
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(She almost lost her dad in the accident.)
What did the doctor say?
I'm okay now,
but if I keep smoking, I might collapse any moment.
He told me to quit.
Wasn't it shocking enough to make you quit?
I'm trying, but...
While her dad was...
in a coma for a week... Were you aware of it?
Yes.
You must have been so shocked.
(Think about how scared your family must have been.)
In front of your daughter...
and everyone here,
can you make a promise?
When Da Eun said that...
she can't smell the scent of cigarettes on her body,
I was so shocked.
Right. I think that's the most serious problem.
If he can't quit, he should set some rules.
- Right. - Right.
He should listen to Da Eun no matter what.
It's okay if you smoke around me.
But please don't smoke when my friends are there.
- No. That's too easy. - No.
He should never smoke in the house or in the car.
- Right? - He shouldn't smoke in the car.
I'll never smoke in the house or in the car.
- Really? - Yes.
Then you'll have to smoke less. Please be specific.
Well...
I'll cut down by one pack.
- One pack? - Yes.
Your daughter said you smoke 1 to 1.5 packs a day.
- But from what I've heard, - He must smoke two packs.
you smoke every 20 minutes. At that rate...
- you must smoke more than 2. - More than 2.
- I smoke about two packs a day. - Right?
How many cigarettes a day do you think are okay?
Half a pack a day.
That's 10 cigarettes.
What do you say?
I'll do my best.
- Do you think you can do it? - Yes.
Are you sure?
I love my dad, so I can trust him.
- Really? - She loves her dad.
Do you think he can quit?
Yes.
What do you want to do with your dad the most?
Tell us.
I want to go on a family trip.
I want to go to a zoo or an amusement park.
I want to go to a water park too,
but it'd be too hard for my grandma.
I want to have a picnic in a flower garden.
She thinks about her grandma too.
I want to go somewhere...
my family can be happy.
Before we wrap up, look at your dad...
and say something.
Please quit smoking...
and give me a lot of love.
She needs your love.
- Okay. - I love you, Dad.
(I love you, Dad.)
Tell your grandma you love her too.
Grandma, please stay healthy. I love you.
- Tell your brother too. - I love you.
(She's a typical older sister.)
Push the button if you think it's a worry.
The moment he looks at Da Eun when she's happy,
he needs to realize that's a precious moment.
Please try your best so that she can make...
a lot of happy memories with you.
I think it's a worry.
Rather than having a dad who might get sick or collapse at any time,
Da Eun needs a dad who can protect her...
all the time.
If you think it's a worry,
please push the button!
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Time's up! - All right.
Please say a word to your daughter.
Da Eun, I'll try my best...
to quit smoking as soon as I can.
Just bear with me until I quit.
I love you.
(Da Eun, I love you.)
Da Eun's dad!
Please say a word to her friends who teased her.
Say that Da Eun won't smell bad from now on.
Dear Da Eun's friends,
- Give them a piece of your mind. - Promise them.
I'll quit smoking,
so don't tease Da Eun saying that she smells of cigarettes.
Hope you get along with her well.
Show us how many votes she got.
("A Stinky Man")
The last digit is 0. Is she going to get more than 100 votes?
(How many votes will she get?)
- Goodness. - She got 160 votes.
(She got 160 votes.)
"Flaring up".
Hyeok Soo, please play the husband's role.
You've been playing the husband so far today, so continue the role.
- Okay, I will. - Play the dad.
Hello.
I'm a mom of two girls who are 4 and 13 years old.
I'm a housewife in my 40s.
The temperature changes in and out of season at my home.
It's because of my husband.
"Hey kids, do you want to go to a movie with me tomorrow?"
"Is there any movie you want to see?"
Then the next day,
"Honey, aren't you getting ready?"
"You said you're going to the movies with the kids. Aren't you going?"
"No!"
- "I won't!" - What's wrong?
My husband's mood is...
so unpredictable.
The problem is, if the kids watch television...
when he's in a bad mood,
"How long are you going to watch television?"
"You never come to your senses. All right."
"You will if I kick you out!"
- He does all of a sudden. - Because they watched television?
When we have a meal,
"You're having a meal for such a long time!"
"Just throw away the food!"
"You'd better skip the meal!"
- Really? - Before he goes to bed,
"Why are you using the cellphone at this hour?"
"Give it to me! Now!"
He breaks it.
- Goodness. - He broke it?
- Yes. - Why?
He yells at the kids for nothing,
and he threw my daughter's cellphone in the garbage can...
because she used it for five minutes.
"Honey, please don't yell."
"Can't you say in a normal voice, in a relaxed way?"
"Don't interfere!"
What's the matter? Why does he do that?
- He loses his temper. - My husband gets enraged...
and flares up depending on his mood.
Please help him conquer his temper.
(Please help him conquer his temper.)
(That's too much.)
How about you? Do you tend to get angry a lot?
I used to get angry easily,
but I was totally changed after I got married.
Right. Your eyes used to be filled with violence in the past.
What usually made you to flare up before?
When you had a trouble or things got wrong making music, I guess.
I even flared up on the stage.
I threw away the microphone as I got so furious.
I used to behave in an unacceptable manner often.
How about you, Hyeok Soo?
- Do you flare up? - I have a definite reason.
It's the same with Yeong Ja.
I'm in a bad mood when I'm hungry.
I feel suddenly happy when I eat something.
So I keep eating to keep myself happy.
I broke that habit.
- You shouldn't do that later. - Among the celebrities, I think...
Dong Yeob is the one who flares up the least.
I don't think I've ever seen him get angry.
He makes sarcastic remarks though.
- He's done that a lot. - Right.
He's quite sarcastic.
Let's bring the one who has a worry and continue our talk.
Please come out!
(She's worried about her husband who changes his mood so much.)
(Song Min Jeong)
Welcome!
(Welcome.)
Does he really get angry like that in reality?
He's originally temperamental.
Things are all right when he's feeling good,
but if he gets upset, he flares up all of a sudden...
and acts extreme sometimes.
When he's in a good mood, he calls the kids affectionately...
like "cutie pie" or "pumpkins".
but when he's in a bad mood,
- he's like... - Does he go, "You Ugly"?
(He surprised us.)
- He goes, "Hey! You!"... - "Hey! You!"
and snarls at them.
What makes him feel good or bad?
I wonder if you figured it out.
I can't really predict what affects his mood.
That can drive anyone crazy.
For example, if he's in a bad mood...
and sees that our older daughter's room is messy.
Then that's when it starts.
"Why did you take off your clothes like that?"
"You room looks like a pigsty."
When my daughter picks at her meal,
"Why are you eating your meal like that?"
"You'll come to your senses if you starve."
"Throw away your food now."
And thing is, he brings up reasons he scolded her in the past.
- Goodness. - Gosh.
- Then it gets worse. - He's a tiring person.
- What's in the past. - He keeps scolding,
"Did you finish your homework?" "Have you cleaned up your room?"
"I scolded you about this yesterday, but you haven't changed."
When I look at them,
I feel like I'd become neurotic.
I heard that your husband threw away your daughter's cellphone.
She was going to go to bed,
but she got a message, so she was checking it...
- for a couple minutes. - Not for a long time.
No. Then my husband came and threw it away...
to the place we collect garbage.
A cellphone is very important to the kids these days.
One day, when our daughter was 2 or 3 years old,
we had to go out, but she didn't want to.
So she vomited, threw a tantrum, and cried.
My husband couldn't look at it patiently.
He brought a back scratcher and hit her soles.
When she was two?
How do your daughters react when their dad scolds them...
and flares up like that?
The younger one is four years old,
so she doesn't have an idea yet.
The older one is 13 years old now,
and she's going through puberty.
She says nothing and has a stiff look.
It's scary.
She shows no response even when she's scolded.
I think that's strange.
As she's an adolescent,
she must be going through a lot of emotional ups and downs.
If he keeps treating her that way,
- I think your daughters... - They could close their mind.
- might close their mind. - That's possible.
We're like that too.
If your dad is consistent, and you acknowledge your mistakes,
it's easy to apologize for it.
But he's inconsistent.
She might think that her dad was venting his anger on her...
- after a bad day at work. - Of course.
Then she cannot acknowledge her mistakes.
Have you talked about it with your husband?
Of course. I told him to scold the kids...
only when they make a big mistake.
When I tell him so, he goes,
"Then I won't care at all and do nothing about it."
"Don't ask me anything."
"You should do it on your own." and then he slams the door.
We can't have a normal conversation.
(What can I do?)
Let's meet her husband.
Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
He looks very nice.
You're in a good mood, right?
- Yes. - I'm glad to hear that.
You stood up and greeted us.
Can you understand why she's worried?
Yes, I do. I try to correct myself,
but it's not easy as it's my personality.
All the men came here today admit their fault.
(At least they recognize their faults.)
Da Eun's dad.
Is it true that you hit your daughter...
when she was two because she vomited?
- Her soles. - It's true.
My wife was not in at that time,
and I was feeding my younger daughter.
And then she threw a tantrum saying that she missed her mom.
She threw her food and spilled milk.
She even vomited intentionally...
to draw attention.
Still, they were so young.
I think he's being too sensitive.
Was your father similar to you?
- Was he patriarchal? - That's right.
He's a typical man of Chungcheong Province.
When I visit him, although I'm over 40 years old now,
if my friends call me out around 8pm, he goes...
"Why are you going out when it's so late?"
He gets angry with me.
I think I was influenced by him...
and treat my children strictly.
I don't think all men in Chungcheong Province are patriarchal.
My family is also from Chungcheong Province, but it's different.
When we didn't study or eat well and we cried and threw a tantrum,
my dad went, "Leave them alone. They'll eat if they want to live."
- Exactly. - Yes.
Most of them are like that.
When we go out late, he goes, "Leave them alone. Close the gate."
"They'll realize how sad it is to be homeless."
- "Leave them. It's their life." - Right.
Sure. When we threw a tantrum saying we won't go to school,
"Leave them alone."
"Let them live without education. How can they get a job?"
"Leave them alone."
You mean even people in Chungcheong Province are not all the same.
Are you from North or South Chungcheong Province?
I'm from Gongju, South Chungcheong Province.
Are you from Gongju?
I'm from a region far from there. We're from the opposite direction.
I'm from Anmyeon Island.
People in Gongju are kind of patriarchal.
Is it so?
Aristocrats lived there during the Baekje Period.
It's understandable as it was like that during the Baekje Period.
(Hello, My Hometown)
(See you next week.)
I think it's necessary to discipline your children...
in a strict way.
But your wife is worried as you get over the edge,
and your children are discouraged.
When I give my older daughter a scolding,
she seems to be sullen and careful around me.
So I feel bad about that.
I want to be caring and affectionate,
but she doesn't obey me.
I'm very frustrated over that too.
I can't understand him now.
He doesn't look like someone who bursts out into anger.
- He is so calm. - I know.
- That's right. - Ma'am, did you lie?
He is so calm.
- He must be in a really good mood. - I know.
- He... - Does he suddenly transform?
He doesn't seem like someone who would lose his temper.
What do you think? Does he seem despicable right now?
We don't see that side of him.
The way he treats his family at home...
and the way he treats people outside...
- are different. - He could be putting on a facade.
When I didn't know about this when we were newlyweds,
I told him to eat, and he said he didn't have an appetite.
I told him that he should try the food...
since his parents made it for him. After I suggested it three times,
he lost his temper.
"I told you I won't eat it! Why do you keep asking?"
- You must have been startled. - After that,
I don't ask him to eat more than once.
After that incident?
- That happened. - You came to realize this then.
You don't seem like you are from Chungcheong Province.
At Chungcheong Province, it's customary to ask three times.
Otherwise, they'll be sad and say that you are heartless.
Do you want people to listen to you right away?
Yes. I make my intentions clear.
People ask repeatedly to be nice.
I don't want to repeat myself.
(I have an idea.)
Have some water.
- Have some water. - It's okay.
Have some water.
- Have some water. - I don't want it.
(The corners of his mouth turn down.)
(My goodness.)
My goodness.
What other problems does he have with the children?
He doesn't understand that they are going through puberty.
You have daughters, too.
The oldest one is interested in her looks.
A 13-year-old is like that.
- She wears my lipstick. - Of course she does that.
He goes, "Why do you neglect your duties..."
"and only care about your looks?"
"Remove that makeup right away."
When she wears a short skirt and dances,
he goes, "Haven't you seen the news on crimes?"
"You shouldn't go out in that short skirt."
He makes drastic analogies.
She really likes BTS these days.
She talks about them quite often.
- You should listen. - When he is annoyed,
he goes, "You are prohibited from talking about BTS."
"Don't talk about celebrities. Don't sing BTS' songs."
Instead of talking to her nicely,
he yells at her and scolds her.
He's closing the door to communication.
I used to get upset at my parents.
When my dad scolded me, I became furious.
I seethed with anger.
When parents scold their children in the wrong way,
- they could become defiant. - That's right.
There is that danger.
While I know that,
she shouldn't use lipstick and makeup products...
because they contain harmful substances.
They aren't good for her health.
Also, criminals target...
elementary school children these days.
Then you shouldn't keep those thoughts to yourself.
You should communicate with your daughter.
When she talks about BTS,
you should try to talk to her about her interests.
Why won't you let her do that?
At the dinner table, she talks about BTS...
for 20 to 30 minutes without eating.
We want to hear...
- about her school and friends. - That's what you want to hear.
Do you think you live in a drama?
Such thing only appears in a drama.
Children don't talk to their parents...
about what happened at school...
or how well they get along with their friends.
Parents want to hear those things, but kids don't talk about it.
You said she sings BTS' songs a lot. Are there songs you remember?
"Spring Day", "Idol", and "Epiphany".
I listened to 3 or 4 songs and found them to be nice.
(He shyly admits.)
You should tell your daughter that.
"These songs are nice."
I downloaded the songs on my phone.
I listen to them in the car.
Which member is your daughter's favorite?
- Jin? - Jin?
- Yes. - Jin is her favorite member.
- He is wrong. - Hold on.
She said he is wrong.
- Who is her favorite member? - She likes Suga.
Suga.
He tries his best to update himself with her daughter's interests.
He downloads BTS' songs and listen to them.
He does try.
But the problem is that his behavior isn't consistent.
It makes our daughters feel...
uncomfortable and anxious.
Because she is timid at school as well,
it's hard for her to make friends.
She has low self-esteem.
That's what breaks my heart.
Does the younger daughter have...
a better relationship with her dad?
There isn't a big difference.
When I asked him to read her a book...
to do the dishes,
I heard a shout after a minute or two.
When I went over, he was scolding the child,
and the child was crying. When I go to find out why,
she hit his face as a joke.
But he puts on a stern face and says,
"How dare you hit your dad's face and run away?"
He didn't say that as a joke.
- He was serious. - He was serious.
He brought a stick and said,
"You need to experience how painful it is."
- He did that. - My goodness. It was like this.
"Gosh, my child." Then the child hit him as a joke.
"How dare you hit your dad?"
This is exactly what he did to his daughter.
That angle was a work of art.
Dong Yeob doesn't challenge me. He knows he will lose.
(I will be good to you.)
A four-year-old could do that while playing.
Even if she was play. it was excessive.
One time, she hit my lips,
and I began to bleed profusely.
I am sure the bleeding stopped.
I doubt you bled profusely.
You are exaggerating.
You should ask my wife.
Did his lips bleed profusely?
I don't recall.
I bet it wasn't that bad.
I wonder what their daughters think.
- They visited the show. - That's his oldest daughter.
Where are they?
- Please come inside. - They are here.
(The first daughter)
Welcome.
(They are so cute.)
- How cute! - What do you think?
Does your dad scold you often? Does he get angry often?
He does that sometimes.
- She is nice. - She is a good daughter.
She is nice.
She doesn't want to embarrass her dad.
(She is considerate.)
How does your dad scold you?
- He shouts... - "You jerk!"
- and stuff. - "You jerk!"
Hold on. Your sister said your dad goes, "You punk!"
Does he do that?
Yes, he does.
"You punk!"
When your dad gets angry,
you are bound to be nervous and upset. How do you feel?
It makes my heart ache.
How so?
When I am on my way to clean my room,
he scolds me for not cleaning up my room.
- You were going to do it. - It's always like that.
I hate it when that happens.
When did your heart ache the most?
One time, my sister...
- That's your sister, right? - Yes.
She fell from the sofa.
My dad said it's my fault.
(It must have been upsetting.)
Let's hear from the younger daughter.
Da Min, has your dad yelled at you?
What did he say?
He said, "You punk."
(I see.)
It must have been upsetting.
He shouldn't have said that to a girl.
(He shouldn't have said that to a girl.)
They'll get confused about their gender.
Of course she didn't like it.
Does he play with you?
No. My mom plays with me,
but my dad doesn't read books for me.
Her dad doesn't read books for her.
When is he the scariest?
Do you remember the time he spanked you?
(He asks the question as a joke.)
(Nodding)
Do you remember that?
She has an incredible memory.
It happened when she was two.
Where did he hit you? Your palms? Your butt? Your sole?
- The sole. - She is correct.
- She remembers. - Your sole?
Did it hurt or annoy you?
- It annoyed me. - It annoyed you.
It annoyed her.
My goodness.
Did it also hurt your pride?
(Yes.)
Do you think you deserved it?
- Yes. - Do you think you deserved it?
(She thinks she deserved it.)
I see.
(Her honesty makes people laugh.)
- My goodness. - In that case,
why did your dad spank you?
Because my dad didn't play with me.
Your dad hit you because he didn't play with you?
(It's the logic of a two-year-old.)
You should've played with him if he wanted to play with you.
He should read her...
a lot of books.
She laughed and cried.
- She is so cute. - She is so cute.
The punishment hurt her pride. Sir.
A child isn't clueless.
The punishment hurt her pride.
- She remembers. - Da Min,
do you like your dad or find him scary?
I find him scary.
- She finds him scary. - That's wrong.
Is that why you poked his eye?
(No comments.)
Your daughters are completely different.
The second daughter is very cheerful.
I was very surprised. As he listened to the story,
he touched his eldest daughter twice.
I was very surprised...
because she hates it when her dad touches her.
(When her dad touches her,)
(she becomes rigid.)
(Her dad's hand...)
(makes her uncomfortable.)
The way she talks and acts makes me think that...
her heart isn't open to her dad.
I would like to ask you a question.
I heard that you don't apologize when your dad scolds you.
I heard that you simply listen with a blank face.
Why is that?
I am worried that...
he will scold me more if I talk.
That's why you don't say anything.
(She refuses to communicate with her dad.)
Min Jeong's close friend visited the show as well.
Do you understand her worry?
Yes, I do.
When Da Yeon was...
about Da Min's age,
Min Jeong struggled a lot...
between of her husband.
I thought that they might get a divorce.
- Was it that bad? - Yes.
The relationship improved a lot after they had their second child.
I am worried about Da Yeon the most.
You are worried about her the most.
When children feel that they have been wronged,
- they become defiant. - That's right.
Da Yeon is so gentle...
that she doesn't even talk back.
I often think that...
she must have a lot of emotional scars...
- due to her dad's scolding. - They last a long time.
- That's right. - Do you fight with your husband?
It's not as frequent these days. Back in the days,
it was quite serious.
He once broke the door...
because he couldn't contain his anger.
When I told him to watch the child instead of playing games,
he slammed the keyboard and broke it.
When I asked him to help me or watch the child,
he said, "Work stressed out, and I'm tired."
"Do I really need to do that?"
He swore a lot...
and slammed the door. It was impossible to communicate.
I would like to say something in my defense.
When we moved to Sejong,
she quit work.
I don't work in an office. I work in a lab,
and I am on my feet all day long.
When I come back home in a tired state,
she doesn't say,
"Would you help me?"
She goes, "Do the dishes. Clean the house."
"Play with the child."
I have something to say.
When I busy with one chore,
- I want him to do the other chore. - That's right.
However, he never helps me.
- That's why I don't use nice words. - That's right.
Then he becomes annoyed...
- that I order him around. - It's a vicious cycle...
- that leads to a fight. - That's right.
What you talked about...
is something I am experiencing.
It made me look back on myself.
Do the two of you go on a date...
- sometimes? - Do you?
- Not really. - They have two children.
Even after you get married, you have go on dates.
- That's right. - You need to have conversations.
- That's right. - I also...
Do you often go on dates with your wife?
We can't do it often. We also experience the problems...
they are having.
I get angry when the song I worked hard on...
doesn't make it on the chart.
Things like that happen.
It's connected to work.
What happens when you go home?
Then Mi Rae offers to produce the song.
It's hard to look after the child...
in a stressful situation.
That's right.
(It's hard.)
Does he spend time with the family on weekends?
He does go out with the family when I beg him,
but I hold the children's hands and walk with them...
all day long.
He just holds the bag and stays 2 or 3m behind us.
He looks at his phone from time to time.
It's important to take a picture together, right?
He says it violates his portrait rights.
He says that as a joke, right?
No, he doesn't. He refuses to get his picture taken.
I always take his pictures in secret.
We asked her to bring some pictures of the family.
Only Min Jeong and her daughters are in the pictures.
- That's his back. - That's his back.
It's rare for a man do that.
That's...
I asked him to turn around.
He briefly glanced over as he told me not to take a picture.
- That's how I got the picture. - Is that the only picture?
Why won't you take a picture with your family?
Are you a spy?
I am not a spy. The thing is,
I fall from a high place during a part-time job...
21 years ago and gained disability.
After spending three years in the hospital,
I became depressed.
I can't control my facial expression.
I look awkward in pictures.
They always come out badly.
- That's why you don't like it. - Yes.
You look fine when you smile.
When it's time to take a picture,
- my face... - Your smile turns awkward.
Yes. They come out badly.
You can make a unique facial expression...
instead of a smile.
You can blow air into your cheeks.
Blow air into your cheeks.
- How cute! - You look cute!
You should do that.
Why don't you put your arm around your daughter...
- and look at the camera? - Let's take a picture.
Put your arm around her.
- Look at the camera. - Look at the camera.
Blow air into your cheeks. In 1, 2, 3.
(And...)
(she refuses.)
(He blows air into his cheeks.)
(He ends up looking away.)
She is surprised.
She'd rather see him angry.
She is more used to that.
(It's awkward to see you act this way.)
(I don't know what to do.)
Will you continue to discipline your children that way?
Do you have the intention to fix your temper?
I know what my personality is like.
I will take better care of my wife...
and pay more attention to my older daughter.
Let's practice.
Let's say she left some food behind during a meal.
(He usually reacts this way.)
Let's say she left some food behind during a meal.
Let's practice.
(What will he do?)
The farmers in the countryside made this rice.
(He has a long way to go.)
You need to finish it.
Have you worked in the countryside?
Look at her face.
- It's really hard. - My goodness.
You need to be wise with a daughter who is going through puberty.
When she leaves food behind, say, "We did give you too much food."
"I guess you are on a diet."
"I will take some food from your plate."
"Tell me how much food you want in the beginning."
I just took her plate in the past.
We are telling you not to do that.
(We are telling you not to do that.)
(That's refreshing.)
(Please change your ways.)
What do you want to say to your husband?
What our children need most right now...
is a lot of love and attention...
so that they will have good memories.
I hope you would think about what you can do.
Then our oldest daughter...
will be able to grow...
into a better person.
Let's start with Hyeok Soo.
- I think it's a worry. - You think it's a worry.
Don't get angry in order to change your children.
You should change for the sake of your children.
I don't think it's a worry.
Then why did you press the button?
- I am experiencing... - You understand the parents.
the same thing.
I think it's a worry.
I don't think it's a worry.
When the parents are emotional, the children become timid.
It would be hard if it's like that at home.
If you think it's a worry,
please press the button.
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
Show us the result.
(The result)
The previous worry got 160 votes.
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92 votes.
(92 votes)
"A Hopeless Worry".
Hello.
(He is good.)
- He is good. - I am a housewife in my 40s...
who lives in Gyeongju.
Ever since my husband passed away eight years ago,
I have been living with my son.
However, I feel like I am living alone.
(Why?)
- You should play the son. - Okay.
Okay. I am playing a variety of roles today.
- You played a dad before. - That's right.
"My son, did you eat?"
"Do you want me to make you something to eat?"
(Silent)
"I am asking you if you ate."
"I ate!"
Slam!
He slams the door.
My 20-year-old son...
never answers me.
This happened last year.
Ding-dong! Ding-dong!
"You have a delivery!"
"What is this?"
"It's an acceptance letter!"
"My son, did you apply to a college?"
"Yes."
I am so frustrated that I could go insane.
"It's not like you are going through puberty."
"Why won't you talk to me?"
"Sit down so that we can talk."
"I am tired!"
Why won't my son talk to me?
I am so lonely these days.
I want to know what my son is thinking.
(I want to know what my son is thinking.)
What do you think about the worry?
You played the taciturn son.
He is nothing like me.
I am TMT.
Too Much Talker.
- You talk too much. - I am like that.
I talk a lot and share a lot.
I answer questions that are directed at other people.
I ask and answer questions.
- You got accepted to a college. - Then I would enter this way.
(Singing)
That's how I would enter before telling her the news.
Can you say "Mom, I got accepted" like Yu Hai Jin?
Mom, I got accepted. I am going to college.
- Like this. - That will be fun.
What if she asks, "Have you eaten yet?"
I ate each of what's served together with Yeong Ja.
I ate it deliciously.
It will be so fun to have a son like him.
How were you as a son, when you were young, Tiger JK?
You know how you don't want to talk after adolescence.
It makes you feel awkward when your dad holds your hand.
I loved them deeply, though.
- You did, but you didn't show it. - I didn't show it.
They didn't know that I released albums.
They probably found out when I released my third album.
- Not until the third album? - No.
How did they find out then?
My song took the top spot on "Inkigayo" then.
They knew it when they saw you on television.
It's from a mom who has a heavy heart for her quiet son.
A talkative son needs to come to meet her today.
You need to bring her here.
- You're a son she hopes for. - Let's meet her with an applause!
(Who's worried about her taciturn son?)
(Kwon Yeong Mi)
Watch your step.
Welcome.
Are you really worried because your son doesn't speak?
I feel like I'm invisible.
He doesn't answer even if you ask.
When he went to elementary school, even before I asked, he went...
"Mom, I played soccer at school today."
"I scored goals."
He used to be like that, but as he entered middle school...
he got gradually became quieter.
Most kids get quieter during puberty when they go to middle school.
They get to spend time alone and like that.
He wasn't like that, but he changed suddenly.
Most of them are like that.
Even kids that were talkative in elementary school.
- How old is your son now? - He's 20 years old.
He's been like that all along. That's why she's worried.
One day, I saw something in the mailbox.
I thought it was mine and looked at it.
It was from Seoul Arts Occupational Training College.
- Applied music arts. - It said college on the letter.
I opened it wondering what it was, and it was an acceptance letter.
(It was an acceptance letter.)
(He didn't discuss going to college with her.)
He didn't tell you what school he wanted to go.
He never did.
He decided it alone and did everything by himself.
He became a board member at school.
If I were him, I'd get very excited...
and call and say what happened.
"Mom, I became a board member at school."
This is how a talkative person would act.
- That's me. - What if you become a board member?
I went to school and my friends were there asking me I had to take it.
They asked me to take the job, so I accepted it.
(I'm satisfied.)
You wish you have a son like him.
That's right.
(I wish my son was at least half as talkative as him.)
One day, I saw him coming back from school,
and he looked so down.
- So I patted his butt. - You patted his butt.
He slapped my hands and said, "Stop it!"
At that moment, I couldn't breathe.
Did you pat his butt or grab it?
(Did you pat his butt or grab it?)
You didn't grab, did you?
You just wanted him to have a meal.
When I call him to have dinner,
he answers, but he doesn't come out.
When I call him again,
he goes, "I got it! Wait a minute!"
and then he doesn't come out.
Have you asked him why he doesn't come out after answering?
When I ask him why he doesn't talk to me,
he says, "Just because", "I don't want to",
or "Just because. You're my mom."
"Just because. You're my mom."
(Why does he do that to his mom?)
Back then, I thought it's because he's going through puberty,
and it would be all right after some time.
These days, he's living away from home.
Gyeongju is so far from Seoul.
When I call him, he ignores my calls.
I wonder how he's doing and if he has his meals all right.
(Son, you need to pay attention to your mom.)
We'll see a screenshot to find out how much her son doesn't answer.
It's a screenshot of their messages.
(She gave him an affectionate nickname.)
(My little puppy)
"Son, what's wrong? You're not answering the call. I'm worried."
"Son, why are you not answering the call? I'm worried."
"Is something wrong?"
"Son, you're not answering the call. Call me when you see this."
And about seven days have passed.
I think you need to call the police.
(It's unbelievable.)
- Is there more? - Is there?
- She's the only one sending it. - It's all the same.
You're sending it alone.
"Son, you're not answering my call. How is your cold?"
"I'm worried as you're not answering the call."
"Make sure you call me when you see this."
And several days have passed again.
I memorized all of it now.
- "Son, I'm worried." - You're amazing, ma'am.
- There's more. - There's more.
- "I'll contact you soon." - Look at that.
Look at his message. "I'll contact you soon."
He's so business-like.
I didn't hate him first, but I've had enough of this.
What a punk, really.
His behavior to his mom is unacceptable.
How can he say, "I'll contact you soon"? She's not your client.
You're right.
"I'll contact you soon."
Her love towards her son is special.
- The wallpaper is your son's photo. - Right.
You've been through a lot.
- Right. - You don't stop sending messages.
Here's her son. Hello.
Hello.
(Who's the quiet and taciturn son?)
Do you hate your mom?
No.
Then how come you sent a message like that?
If I can make an excuse...
I call her on the day she sends me messages.
(She snorts.)
Your mom is snorting.
- You don't call her first. - I answer more than I call.
Right, you answer. You don't call.
- Yes. - Can you understand her worry?
Yes, I understand. I'm generally...
quite taciturn,
but I think I'm more taciturn to my mom.
I heard you played sports when you were young. Did you?
Yes. I was a track and field athlete for 4 to 5 years.
But I injured my pelvis and gave it up.
I began to go astray since then.
You were going through puberty, and it made it even worse.
I admit that I was awful.
When I came home, I went into my room...
and didn't come out. I hated everything.
(He began to confine himself.)
Why didn't you tell her when you applied for college?
Yes, I'm really curious about it.
That was too much.
You went to college in Seoul from Gyeongju.
My school had a special lecture.
I went there, and they said I could have an interview.
I thought I wouldn't pass,
I had an interview, and I forgot.
You forgot.
I didn't remember it and days passed.
- Time passed and... - You didn't expect you would pass.
Then my mom called me and asked about the acceptance.
Then I remembered it.
If he had told me that,
I would have understood the situation.
- Right. - I'd have understood it.
By the way,
do you tend to not talk about other important issues?
- Yes. - I see.
What I don't understand is...
If your mom sends you messages,
you can just answer, "Don't worry. I'll call you later."
I usually see the message when I get to school.
Then I tell myself I'll call later,
and time passes, and I forget.
You forget to call her.
(Please think about your worrying mom)
As I see how she writes her messages,
you seem to feel pressured, I guess.
Yes. She worries too much about little things.
- Can you give us an example? - If I walk into the house...
with a blank look on my face for no reason,
she always asks if something happened.
- Nothing happened. - Yes. Nothing really happened.
So even if I say there's nothing wrong, she doesn't believe it.
she tells me to be honest and tell her what's wrong.
If she knows a friend of mine,
she sometimes ask me...
if I keep in touch with him.
If I say I don't,
she asks me right away if I had a fight with him.
She goes, "No, you must have had a fight with him."
She makes assumptions and worries in advance.
So after all, I get annoyed.
He was a small baby when he was born.
He had a surgery on his intestines a little after he was born.
- It was when he was this big. - He was so small.
Even though he's sick, he doesn't tell me so that I won't worry.
But I can't help paying attention.
- Are you sick now? - I don't have any health problems.
- Are you totally healthy? - Yes. My mom...
tends to get worked up over small things.
Even when I catch a common cold,
she says, "The flu is going around. Are you sure it's not the flu?"
She makes it more serious.
(Her worries pressure her son.)
Is there another reason you worry about your son?
He doesn't look so, but he's quite introverted.
- He's introverted. - I was like that...
- before I came to Seoul. - Were you?
Since I went astray, I even avoided...
meeting my friends.
(He was a loner when he went astray.)
Do you have many friends now so that your mom doesn't have to worry?
When I first met my friends in the dorms, I was intimidated...
- Was it uncomfortable? - because they were taller than me.
But I met good friends there.
She said she patted your butt before.
Actually, he wouldn't like it...
because she treated him as a boy.
You slapped your mom's hand away, and it created distance between you.
To be honest, I don't really remember what happened back then.
- But it was... - You did it unconsciously.
When I watch television, she suddenly approaches...
and pinches my face or lays her cheek against mine.
She keeps doing that. I tell her not to do it,
but she keeps doing it saying, "Just once."
Now I'm not so young, so she shouldn't do that to me.
But she keeps doing that.
I can totally understand him.
I think even if my son grows up as much as him,
- I'd still touch his ears. - Parents do that.
Recently, after I came to Seoul,
I had to go to the health center.
It takes more than four hours from Gyeongju to Seoul...
- by an express bus. - Right.
My mom called me and said she would accompany me to the health center.
It was a short trip to the center, but she insisted on coming with me.
I was barely able to stop her.
It seems that she's always worried about you.
His friends are sitting next to him.
They're the big and tall friends who intimidated him.
- They must be his Seoul friends. - Let's meet them.
- Hello. - Hello.
(His Seoul friends don't look ordinary.)
She's worried because her son is introverted.
How is he when he's with friends?
I think Seong Goo...
is good at speaking...
and funny.
- Really? - He's a pleasant person.
- He's an IS. - He has a good sense of humor.
He's the ultimate IS, right?
- "The ultimate IS"? - He likes hanging with friends,
and he's confident when he gives a presentation.
(Is my son really like that?)
He's also the director...
- of the university promotion team. - What?
- He's the director? - Yes.
- He's the director of the team. - I didn't know that.
- She didn't know that either. - I heard it from someone else.
(Her son didn't tell her about it either.)
Hyeok Soo called him an IS before.
- "The ultimate IS". - What does it mean?
It stands for "insider", a person who gets along with others well.
The ultimate IS means a very popular person...
- who always lightens up the mood. - The opposite of "outsider"?
Dong Yeob is also an IS, right?
- It'll make us look younger. - Right.
I'm an IS.
- He's the ultimate IS. - That's right.
Which one of you guys is an IS?
I'm an outsider.
- You're an outsider? - Yes.
I'm an outfielder.
(She makes a pun just as an IS would do.)
- That's funny. - Of course.
- Can we talk to the other friend? - He looks...
- Could you smile a little bit? - Exactly.
(Smiling)
What do you think of Seong Goo?
Since he's introverted, it seemed hard to make friends with him.
But as we became friends, I realized that he's peculiar,
funny, and cheery.
He's popular among friends.
- He's popular too. - Since you mentioned it,
can you tell us just one unusual thing that he did?
(Hesitating)
He's worried his mother might be worried.
- His mother will be worried. - She'll be worried.
He's a great dancer.
(He turns out to be the ultimate IS.)
My gosh.
See? Your son grew up just fine.
I've never heard him sing in front of me.
I've never seen him dance before.
He always acted like a baby in front of me.
You seem to be quite taciturn, Bong Geon.
No. I'm a very cheerful person.
- Is that true? - I don't see that.
I'm a very cheerful person.
What do you say when your mother ask if you had a meal?
I...
rarely eat at home.
(He has a unique personality.)
Do you text your mother sometimes?
I talk to my mom at least every other days.
Do you call her or does she call you?
I think I call her...
- More often than she calls you? - less often than she calls me.
(I give up.)
Ma'am, does finding out your son gets along well with his friends...
make you feel disappointed or relieved?
It would be a lie if I say I'm not disappointed, but I'm relieved...
that he's doing much better...
than I thought.
I think he's very similar to my older brother...
judging from what I heard.
I thought my brother was very shy...
and looked like he would let anyone walk all over him.
But it turned out...
- he was completely different. - It wasn't how he really was?
He was a student board member...
- and active in his classes. - Right.
How often do the two of you...
talk to your parents on the phone?
I don't call my parents very often.
My dad is my fan.
- Your dad is? - Yes. He searches on the Internet.
And he texts me so many times a day asking questions like,
"What are you doing? Did you have a meal?"
I'm sorry to say this, but it's just a little bit...
annoying, so I don't reply to him right away.
- I understand how he must feel. - You understand him a little.
But it gets worse.
My father has my photos in every corner of his taxi.
He wanted to wrap the outside of his car with my photo,
so I had to beg him to stop him.
- On the outside of his car. - "Please don't do that."
"Please don't do that."
(He's a true fan.)
It seems to me...
that you don't have to worry about him.
Is there any particular reason...
- why you worry about him so much? - Is there?
When I was a little child,
I suffered from polio,
- which is still affecting me today. - You did?
Yes.
Therefore,
I can't get a job even if I want to.
- As of now... - Yes.
It's embarrassing to tell you this,
but I'm living off government subsidy.
- You have no choice. - You shouldn't be ashamed of it.
- You have no choice. - It's just natural.
So I couldn't buy Seong Goo everything that...
- he wanted to have. - My goodness.
Since Seong Goo didn't talk to me or answer my questions,
I asked him, "What's the reason? Why don't you speak to me?"
"Why don't you even answer my questions?"
He said, "Mom, why did you only have me?"
(Surprised)
"Do you know how lonely I've been?"
It's always been weighing down on me.
(Could she be more affectionate because she's sorry to him?)
Let me tell you about Bae Jung Nam, an actor and model.
He was raised by his grandmother.
He started living alone when he was in fifth grade.
Since then, he became more and more independent...
and learned how to get along with others.
He learned it at such a young age,
which he says is very helpful for him now.
Seong Goo, is there anything you want to tell your mom,
but you haven't had a chance to say?
Hold on.
Looking at his face,
I think there's something he hasn't told his mom.
Exactly. It's not too late.
- Tell her. - There can be only one thing.
A girlfriend?
(A girlfriend?)
No. I don't have a girlfriend.
- Do you have a crush... - Hang on.
- No. I don't have a crush either. - When he said it,
his friend in a beanie turned his head and looked at him.
(Earlier on)
(You don't have a girlfriend?)
Tell us the truth.
I did not do such a thing.
Has Seong Goo ever dated anyone in college?
(He's a bad liar.)
I can tell by looking at his face.
- I'm sure he's dated someone. - No comment.
- "No comment"? - "No comment"?
Thank you for your clear answer.
(He's hilarious.)
I want Seong Goo to know one thing.
If you tell your mom what you've decided without discussing with her,
it would damage her self-esteem.
Your mom might think...
that you look down on her because of her health condition.
If you really love your mom...
and respect her,
it'd be nice if you discussed with her...
when you make important decisions.
If you were my son, you would've been beaten up a lot.
(I'm sorry.)
Seong Goo is majoring in applied music,
but his mother has never heard him sing before.
I've never heard him sing before.
How about you sing for your mother...
on this special day?
(You can do it.)
(Excited)
("An Old Song")
Look into her eyes while singing.
(The song I made for you)
(He's nervous to sing in front of his mother for the first time.)
(Glancing)
(She's nodding to the rhythm.)
(There was a time when they were happy though it was just them two.)
(Could they go back to the way they used to be?)
(Your son, whom you're always worried about,)
(grew up so well as you can see.)
(She cries tears of relief.)
(It was touching.)
Ma'am, do you think your son grew up well?
Yes, I think he grew up well.
What do you think of his singing ability?
Was he okay? Or was he amazing?
He was amazing.
Ma'am, say something to your son for the last time.
I have never heard Seong Goo...
saying "Happy birthday" to me...
on my birthday until now.
I want to hear him say, "Mom, happy birthday."
I also want to receive a gift from him.
Before I call him to ask how he's doing,
I want him to call me at least once a week,
and ask, "Mom, what are you doing?"
"What did you eat for dinner? Are you doing well?"
- He could do that. - Is that all you want? Once a week?
I'd like him to call her every other day.
- Every other day. - Yes.
Can you call her every other day?
- Every other day. - Yes.
I will try.
Say something to your mother.
I didn't take it seriously,
but if you were worried so much,
I'm really sorry.
I'll try to fix the problem from now on.
Do you love your mom?
- Yes, I love her. - Should I beat you up first?
(Say it already.)
- You should beat him up first. - He feels so shy.
- Gosh. - Mom, I love you.
(Mom, I love you.)
That's great.
Let's start with Hyeok Soo.
The reasons why you didn't call your mother were all excuses.
From my experience, it's all an excuse.
I know you must feel awkward,
but I'll tell you how to overcome it.
I'll tell you how to throw her a birthday party too.
What to prepare and... There are good ways.
I don't think it's a worry.
He can change himself right away.
I think it's a worry.
He thinks it's a worry.
If you could just send your mother...
a few photos of you with your friends,
it will make her day so happy.
- That's right. - I hope you make an effort.
I don't think it's a worry either.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Time's up. - Not many people pressed it.
Please show us how many votes she got.
(The result)
"A Hopeless Worry".
- She got 57 votes. - She didn't get many votes.
(57 votes)
As a result, "A Stinky Man"...
is this week's winner.
The winner will receive prize money. Congratulations.
Until the day we are all worry-free.
Hello will continue to counsel you.
Thank you.
("Crush" by Weki Meki)